Caffeinate and Conversate

 I am my first priority… And I’m not selfish! Let’s normalize taking care of ourselves 

    Putting yourself first is selfish. You have kids you should put them first. You’re neglecting your kids you should feel ashamed of yourself. Must be nice to spend money on yourself when you have a family. Go ahead and add more of those nasty statements in the comments. I think I’ve heard them all but let’s bring them on…

    OMG, just STOP! Stop shaming women for loving themselves! Stop mom shaming! And for the love of God stop judging! So a little bit of a backstory. A few weeks ago I last minute invited my friend Heather to a small bar to grab a drink. We started catching up on life and what’s been going on in life. We started talking about the launch of this new business and the topics. When we reached this week’s topic she stopped me and said I was that person who put everyone first. Then it dawned on me oh my God I remember her sitting on my couch the first time I met her and she told me she wanted to buy make up for me and just start putting herself first. She then said even when you ride on an airplane they tell you to put your oxygen on first then her child.

    I know we have all done something that has raise your vibration. So I want you to think of that time. The next day how did you feel? Most likely you felt more energy, happier, and ready to take on the day. So imagine especially if your mom if you did something for yourself each day how would you shop for your kids! Don’t have kids? OK, how would you shop for your spouse? Your friends? Your family? Your self!

How many times have you done something out of guilt for someone else? Drop it in the comments… Skip doing something you wanted to help someone else and felt shitty after? Give up something for someone else? How did you feel? Now… Told someone know and did it for yourself? Got ready when you didn’t want to? Splurged on an item? 20 minute shower instead of a five minute shower and possibly drink a beer while doing it? How did you feel? Be selfish and putting yourself first doesn’t mean you’re selfish! Go ahead be selfish in that case you have my permission!